2/16/14 – I Have Cancer … Not “Can’tcer”

I was outside this morning shoveling my driveway.  It wasn’t the two feet of snow that had already fallen in the past few weeks – we have a plow that comes for that.  It was the 2-4 inches that fell last night.

The reactions from the neighbors were great.  Everyone that drove by – “How are you?”  “Should you be doing that?”  “Can we help?”  “How ARE you?” – Don’t get me wrong – I love the concern and the caring nature.  Our community here in Westfield has been beyond the limits of kindness, generosity and concern.  Its just that I CAN do things.  I think too many times we get caught up in this disease – CANCER.  We have to walk on egg shells around Cancer patients.  What can I say?  How do I approach them?  How are they REALLY doing?

Let me tell you this.  I am REALLY doing fine.  Great as a matter of fact.  I won’t know if my Cancer is gone until about mid to late April but I feel GREAT and as long as I feel great I will keep being ME.  I work, I play, I shovel the driveway.  I CAN do many things.  I CAN go to the gym.  I CAN play basketball with my son.  I CAN lift my daughter up over my head.  I CAN do P90X with my wife.

I have CANcer.  That doesn’t mean I am limited.  I am limited only in what I believe I CAN’T do … and I REFUSE to believe there isn’t anything that I can’t do.

So I appreciate the well wishes…don’t get the wrong idea.  You all have been great, caring and concerned neighbors and I love each and every one of you.  Except my neighbor Keith whose only comment this morning was “You missed a spot.”




4 responses to “2/16/14 – I Have Cancer … Not “Can’tcer”

  1. We just read your blog.

    We are so happy to hear that you are doing well.

    Keep it up.

    Can’t wait to see you.


    Corrine & Marty

  2. I found your blog via Julie Burton who tweeted the link to it (Julie is a fellow blogger-friend and I also went to college with her hubby David)…anywhoo, I wanted to comment to let you know I know EXACTLY what you mean. My 9-year old son was diagnosed with a rare pediatric tumor this past summer and of course everyone keeps asking how he is. And like you, he’s doing GREAT and although we love the care and concern as you do, people seem surprised when they hear he is having play dates, going sledding, and wrestling with his brothers like always. 🙂 I love your phrase “I have cancer, not can’tcer.” That’s perfect. And as for your neighbor Keith, his comment made me smile. Sounds like he’s the kind of guy who doesn’t worry about walking on any eggshells…in the meantime, keep up the good work and keep on shoveling!

  3. What a jerk that Keith is. Although from my porch, I sure thought the first thing I heard him say was how great it was that you were out shoveling and not that you shouldn’t have been shoveling like the other neighbors. I must have misheard him…

  4. Hi Brad, Glad you’re not letting thos “spots” get to you. Keep shoveling!

    Love, Uncle Herb and Aunt Roberta

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